I’m sorry the title of today’s offering isn’t better.
I should have written something about a happy or joyous year, right?
But seriously, happy and joyous aren’t my goals.
I wouldn’t mind being happy and joyous, mind you. It’s just that I don’t generally set out to be happy and joyous. Generally, I set out to be functioning and, hopefully, very high functioning.
So far, it looks like this could be a good year for high functioning.
The basics appears to be in place in that respect, so I’m pleased.
How’s THAT for some jumping-up-and-down, crazy, out-of-control positivity, eh?
So here are my basic rules for achieving my goal of having a high functioning year.
And yes, I keep them on note cards.
(1) Ignore my brain
Well, I can’t really ignore my brain, but I can try to step away from messages my brain sends to me. I can try to avoid getting hooked by bad brain messages. And I can try to avoid getting caught in the swirl of my brain activity…when my brain activity is swirling.
(2) Question my brain
I can ask whether my brain is being helpful or unhelpful at any given time. If it’s being helpful, I can work with it. If it’s being unhelpful, I can choose not to engage with my brain…or at least try. Some days are better than others, but it’s a good exercise to disagree with my brain and practice rejecting it when it is not helping me.
(3) Ignore others
I can’t really ignore my brain, but I can definitely ignore other people. I don’t need to be rude or disrespectful toward them. I don’t even need to let them know I’m ignoring them. I can just discount their input, their perspective, or their words (or their texts and emails).
I should probably mention that I don’t mean all others. I just mean those few others who tend to be unhelpful. Let’s ignore them.
(4) Don’t Feel Bad
Number Four pertains to Number Three. I can ignore those few others I ignored in Number Three without feeling bad about the fact that I’m ignoring them or wondering if I’m hurting their feelings. And if I worry about them at any point, I can remember that there are plenty of people out there who are ignoring me.
I need to move everyday. Whether its a few miles of running or 10,000 steps of walking or something more structured, I need to move. I’ll assume you’ve experienced the difference between moving and not moving. Moving just feels better. Period. It feels better, it looks better, it works better. So I gotta move. Every day. In some way.
(6) Be My Own Police
I need to be vigilant about my environment. No moody music. No sad movies. No time spent alone around known triggers.
Policing myself is easy in some respects since I’m quite rigid and generally hyper-disciplined. It’s a bit harder when others are around and I have to bow out of an activity or conversation topic that triggers me. It’s especially hard when I’m in a place – physically or mentally – where everything’s a trigger.
When everything’s a trigger – or when it just seems like everything’s a trigger – it’s important not to take on big thoughts or big decisions. During those times, I try to call a personal time out and I declare privately that everything’s on hold. I take more hot baths than usual and eat some comfort food (i.e. oatmeal for dinner) and I just allow time to pass.
(7) Regroup, Reorganize, Reimagine
This is the story of my life. I do this all the time. I do it every weekend. I do it every month. I do it anytime I need a do over or a new start. I make lists and charts and graphs and spreadsheets and then more lists.
I always know the most current priorities. And I always feel like I can be on top of things.
It might not be that I’m actually on top of things, but hey, at least I feel like I am. And I have to think that feeling there is part of the way to being there, right?
I imagine fantasies that are partly based in reality so that they can serve as positive visualization.
These days I imagine that Leonardo DiCaprio likes my style of painting and commissions me to paint for him. In the advanced fantasy, he provides me a studio in which to paint.
I always wanted an actual studio.
Then I imagine that my art becomes wearable as yoga clothes and I pass people wearing them in airports.
You know you’ve made it when you see your products in airports.
(9) Initiate More Conversations
This one is tough for me but I’m going to do it. I am going to initiate more conversations. I tend to not do so and I know all of the neurotic reasons I don’t initiate conversations. Mostly I don’t because I’m an uptight workaholic Type A personality.
But not initiating is hurtful to people I love so I am going to really really really try to initiate more conversations with a few people I love and a few people I like.
(10) Number Ten
I feel like there should be a number ten. Nine seems so wrong to end on.
Ooooooh! I know! I know!
I’ll reinforce a rule I made last year and didn’t do so well with.
I want to throw things out and/or give things away EACH WEEK.
Okay. I’ll journal that so I keep on track. Dump stuff each week. I really really really want to get rid of stuff.
Well, back now to working on the art business, which I never have to remember to do. Same with painting…no reminders ever necessary.
And then out to walk the dog and knock out some steps.
I hope your 2017 is filled with meaning, passion, purpose, love, giving, hope and inspiration….and laughs, hugs, cuddles, and all that mushy stuff too, of course.