The Trivial I.
I chatted tonight with a friend from forever ago.
I can talk about our conversation here because he doesn’t read my blog. He won’t know I spoke about him publicly… for however public this blog is.
But he wouldn’t mind me talking about him anyway. He’s engaged in self-discovery and committed to the value of transparency. And our conversations count as that for him – since everything counts as that for him.
This friend is a former love interest, a former partner-in-crime. But it was so many lives ago that it doesn’t even seem like it was us. I remember those years like it was something that happened to two other people.
I wonder if that’s how others my age view their past lives.
It’s just that life has happened over and over again since that time and now we are completely different people. We are the same, of course, in essence, in character, in personality, in spirit.
But we are different.
Different people with a shared past that is so remote.
So he told me about his journey in meditation.
I was happy for him. I’ve been meditating much longer and I know how it can change a life for the much better.
He told me about his work on self-discovery.
I was cautiously happy for him. I realize his self-discovery is occurring within his very narrowly established view of the world. His discovery, like mine, will be limited to what we already believe to be true.
Then he told me about his morning meditation. An inspired, hopeful, committed and dedicated affirmation about his life.
And I tripped.
It was an incantation where every sentence began with “I” or “my” – I will be this, I will be that….my life is this, my life is that.
And I realized that I’ve lost my connection to the world of self-discovery.
I used to be all about finding my true self, being a better self, and changing my self from what it was to what it can be.
I even used to motivate others to do the same.
But I’ve changed.
I no longer believe as strongly in the focus on self.
And, to be honest, I’m a little worried.
Maybe I’m doing it wrong. Or missing out. Or skipping a step.
If this is too vague, I’m sorry. I’m trying not to rant.
But I did some research into the morning meditations and they overwhelmingly seemed very “I” focused….at least to me.
I want a morning meditation that starts with “The world around me” or ‘we’ or ‘us’ or something like that. I don’t want to focus on what I am or what I will be today. I want to focus on what the world needs today.
I’m not able to give the world too much of what it needs today.
And I certainly won’t be selfless today.
I will be selfish today, dogmatic, stuck in my schedule and married to my routine.
But I’d like to think, at least, that I’m thinking about the world.
Find me a meditation that reminds me I am small and that my thoughts are small.
Find me a meditation that says my gratitude is not the goal…just a tool in my efforts to meet my goals head on.
Find me a meditation that says today is all I have… to do things different and perhaps make a difference, however trivial.
What is your meditation?
And if it’s focused on I, it’s okay. I won’t yell at you or judge you.
I’ll learn from you.
Because seriously. It’s me, not you.